Why Are We Groomed to Protect Abusers?

Ezinne Ukoha
6 min readJun 26, 2023

Hip-hop icon and entrepreneur Russell Simmons has been dealing with the nasty public fallout involving ex-wife Kimora Lee Simmons and their two daughters Ming Lee and Aoki. The cat is out of the bag, and shit must’ve hit the fan because the raging family members held nothing back during the hostile back-and-forth rants that held social media, hostage.

To cut a very long and wearied story short — The Simmons girls and their fashion model mother are no longer willing to keep their pain private. The loving trio accuses the embattled icon of years of verbal abuse and harassment.

The drama started on Father’s Day when a social media post by one of his daughters recognizing her mother predictably rubbed her father the wrong way, which unleashed a response from Simmons that ruffled feathers and set things off.

“Stop telling fathers they should’ve fought harder & start asking mothers why he had to fight at all.”

Understandably — his daughters and their supportive mother, who has also levied her accusations of inappropriate behavior against her powerful ex-husband were not receptive to the unwarranted victimhood on display.
Something of note is how serial abusers tend to repeatedly overstate their victimhood while conveniently vilifying the…