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Natural Hair’s Love Letter to Black Women

Dear Black Women,

Our relationship is quite confusing to me, and maybe that’s why I tend to be a little hard on you, especially on those days when you refuse to listen to me and decide to do something that you know both of us will regret. I think we are both to blame for our sometimes tumultuous relationship.

I know that I can be difficult at times, and I wish I could change that but unfortunately it is part of my makeup. I can’t alter who I am to suit your needs or to help you feel more comfortable with yourself. What I can do is try to help you understand me better, so that we can establish a mutually beneficial bond that will only get better in time.

But in order for that to happen, you have to be all in! And that requires a deeper commitment. You can’t love me one day and hate me the next. You can’t complain about me incessantly or threaten me with the plethora of options at your disposal.

Yes, I know I have massive competition and I should be eternally grateful that despite how enticing those options are, you still manage to reject the temptations and stick with me. It is still unnerving to know that there is the likelihood that you will leave me for good. But I beseech you to make the effort to allow our relationship to flourish organically.

From my standpoint, I think the best way to go about this, is to not see me as the enemy or unnecessary punishment. I am in your life because I am meant to be.

I am not here to hurt, belittle or shame you. I am on your side. I want you to shine and be the best you can be. I want to be the reason why you smile when you look in the mirror and most importantly I want to elevate the key facets of your life.

If you are truly ready to make this work, the best way to enjoy my benefits is to take the time to get to know me. You can’t listen to what people say or seek advice from bloggers or specialists, because at the end of the day, this is between you and me.

We have to work out the kinks together. Building a foundation takes time and effort, but the rewards are beyond worth it. I guarantee that if you dedicate yourself to me and give me a chance to wow you, you will develop a love for me that will leave you delightfully fulfilled. I have so much to give and I am excited to show that if only you would give me the chance.

I am not as complicated as I have been pumped up to be. I won’t downplay my tendency to get out of hand but I am also easy to subdue if you learn my secrets. The good news is that I am willing to help you figure me out because like I mentioned earlier, I want the best for you.

You have to stop being afraid of what you might find if you dig deeper. What lies beneath is simply an extension of you and for that reason it can’t be that bad — right? You don’t need to drown me in products in an effort to hide my true nature. It hurts my feelings and makes me wonder if you are doing this to run away from what we really mean to each other.

Sorry to be going on and on like this, but I needed to get this out. I will conclude by offering one important piece of advice. We will be happy together if you just remember to handle me with care and respect. I am tough but also uncontrollably fragile.

I like to be pampered with treatments every once in a while but too much of that can make me weak and vulnerable. I don’t mind sticking to your style of choice for long periods of time but I do like it when you change it up a bit because it makes me feel special and keeps our relationship fresh and exciting.

Finally, please stop using me as an excuse for your bad days. I respond to whatever you give me so if things go bad, that is honestly out of my control.

We can do this! I have faith that you and I will find a rhythm that will keep us dancing for a lifetime. You just have to find that beat. And if you trust me enough, I will help you.

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