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Natural Hair’s Love Letter to Black Women

Dear Black Women,

I want to start off by thanking for you finally embracing me the way you always should have. I had my time in the spotlight decades ago, and then I faded away, and now I am back with a vengeance!

So far I am having a pretty good run. You guys are doing a great job spreading the word by keeping me in the news. In fact, I am blown away by all the attention I am getting. It is almost overwhelming, and slightly embarrassing. Every blog or website that curate has a daily shrine erected just for me. It’s hard not feel special and I must say I am having an even harder time preventing the onset of an overblown ego.

I am a little concerned though, about the challenges I seem to be posing for a lot of you. It seems like despite your willingness to accept me for what I am, you are not quite sure how to really love me without any reservations.

Our relationship is quite confusing to me, and maybe that’s why I tend to be a little hard on you, especially on those days when you refuse to listen to me and decide to do something that you know both of us will regret. I think we are both to blame for our sometimes tumultuous relationship.

But in order for that to happen, you have to be all in! And that requires a deeper commitment. You can’t love me one day and hate me the next. You can’t complain about me incessantly or threaten me with the plethora of options at your disposal.

From my standpoint, I think the best way to go about this, is to not see me as the enemy or unnecessary punishment. I am in your life because I am meant to be.

You carry me everywhere you go, and that means that we are team effort. If you look bad or feel bad, those emotions carry over to me. It makes me feel guilty and inadequate, and I start to wonder if maybe we might have made a mistake. Perhaps, we are not supposed to co-exist if being together only breeds pain and frustration.

If you are truly ready to make this work, the best way to enjoy my benefits is to take the time to get to know me. You can’t listen to what people say or seek advice from bloggers or specialists, because at the end of the day, this is between you and me.

I am not as complicated as I have been pumped up to be. I won’t downplay my tendency to get out of hand but I am also easy to subdue if you learn my secrets. The good news is that I am willing to help you figure me out because like I mentioned earlier, I want the best for you.

Sorry to be going on and on like this, but I needed to get this out. I will conclude by offering one important piece of advice. We will be happy together if you just remember to handle me with care and respect. I am tough but also uncontrollably fragile.

Finally, please stop using me as an excuse for your bad days. I respond to whatever you give me so if things go bad, that is honestly out of my control.


Your Hair Forever!

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